And you don’t want to do it anymore. That is the invitation from the Holy Spirit to look at it, to learn a new way. And that’s exactly what we’re going to be doing today. These are three steps that you can invite the Holy Spirit in to reveal to you what you need to know and what to do about it. This process will  reveal to you what is going on and what the problem is. So that you can solve that problem.  The first thing that we want to do is to get curious, step back like you’re watching a movie, write it down. So if I were watching a movie, what would I see? How did that look? And she described to me that I would have seen her standing in the kitchen. There was a dish of candy that’s been on the counter, her son came in, took a piece, this was during the time where she said they were doing their evening routine, getting showers, finishing up homework, getting ready for the day.

This is great information. So once you write down all of the details, then you reread it, and you ask yourself, what did I learn? What did I notice? .  We identified three issues. And they may or may not be the issues or the problem. But we noticed three things. Number one, the candy dish was on the counter. Number two, she was feeling very responsible during this stressed out time. 

And number three, she didn’t plan a nighttime snack. Okay, the third step is very simple. Is that you find solutions for these issues, these problems . And what I also love is that you find… solutions or you create solutions. But the truth is friends are just trying them.

We’re just going to try them. This may or may not work. That’s totally fine. We’re just going to try them. So let’s solve for the candy dish being out on the counter first. Where can we put the candy dish? Does it need to be out on the counter? Why is it on the counter? Was that really a problem for her? Do you really want to look at candy all day long?

Does that mean you’re going to put the candy dish away for the rest of your life? Probably not, but maybe as she’s learning this skill, it would really help her to not have it there. Because the only reason we feel like this is sabotaging is because we didn’t plan it. It’s not the actual candy. It’s that it was eaten in an impulsive, unplanned way, and it felt like we didn’t have control. 

And that’s the second thing that I want to address Is planning a nighttime snack. Often we think we shouldn’t do that because conventional weight loss methods say, don’t eat after seven. Don’t plan a nighttime snack. You won’t have weight loss. And that all may be true, but the goal of the weight loss of the Holy spirit program is not to have fast weight loss.

 It’s to teach you skills so that you can have lasting weight loss for the rest of your life. And by planning a nighttime snack, it serves as a tool in a couple ways. Number one, you’re not going to be eating anything impulsively. Because you’ve planned it. So that whole mind drama about  impulsiveness and sabotaging, it wouldn’t be any of those things because it would be a planned nighttime snack that you feel good about.

We plan food that we feel good about and that we enjoy. We addressed the mind drama of, I shouldn’t be doing that. And I said, you can get to nine o’clock and choose not to have your nighttime snack. But again, it’s you making that choice and it doesn’t feel impulsive or that we’re being controlled by something else. 

It’s just something that you decide. So we make our meal plan at the beginning of the day, so that it is easy to stick to the meal plan. And if you haven’t seen my video on that, you can watch that to get that entire. Skill set, but the piece about the nighttime snack is I just asked her, what would you like to have it?

She said I’d like to have hot chocolate. I said, what else would you like to have with that? She said I’d like to have hot chocolate and nuts or crackers Nuts and crackers and I said, okay all three And you guys, you can plan as much food as you want at any time. Just make sure that you feel good about it.

And so she said tonight I’m going to have hot chocolate and crackers. And then you can decide how many crackers do I feel good about? You can not even write an amount, but you just know in your brain, what feels good, what is planned so that when evening time comes and she’s doing the evening routine with her children, if she sees candy,  she’s already had the talk with herself.

Once the chaos calms down, I’m really going to enjoy my hot chocolate and crackers. It doesn’t feel impulsive. It doesn’t feel sabotaging. You have planned for it. Now the third thing is this evening routine. It felt stressful for her. Because she was leading these kids through it. And so her kids are between the ages of 10 and 15. And I asked her, Is this evening routine written down? Do your children know who needs to be in the shower? What time does homework need to be done? Who goes in the shower first?

Who goes in the shower second? Who goes in the shower third? Because she’s spending a lot of brain power every single night reminding them, and she said, No, this is not written down. They don’t know. So we started to make some steps on making this even more peaceful for her. The first step… was I encouraged her to take out a piece of paper and just get clear in her brain what each child needs to be doing.

And from there, she might make a loose schedule. We’re just finding solutions. We’re just creating solutions. The truth is, aren’t we just trying it? It might not work. 

You, just like my client, are going to have to try things, see if they work. And if they don’t work, Just try something different. Everything that we do is a try tweak attitude. We’re going to try it. What works, we keep doing. Yes. And if they don’t work, Just try something different. 

Look at the sabotaging thing or what’s not working. If I were watching a movie, what would I see? Write it down.

Then reread what you wrote. What did you learn? What did you notice? Just get really curious about that. When you do it in this way and you ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you, Holy Spirit, what do I need to solve for? What’s the real problem here? And then invite the Holy Spirit to also reveal to you some solutions.

Some. We don’t know. It may work, it might not work, but you’re creating solutions. You’re finding solutions. You’re mining for solutions. You’re trying solutions. Because the truth is that so many people believe that weight loss is a meal plan. Knowing that you’re going to have a cup of Greek yogurt with half a cup of blueberries and two tablespoons of walnuts, breakfast isn’t going to help you identify when things go south.

A meal plan will not solve your problems. But what will solve your problems is inviting the Holy Spirit to give you the courage to look at what feels not so shiny about ourselves. When things start to go south, there’s no shame in this, guys. There’s no shame. We just bring the truth. And the tenderness of the Holy Spirit to step away and look at it like a movie.

He will reveal where he wants you to put your attention. What he wants you to solve for. What will make your life easier? What will give you his strength? Where you can access the Holy Spirit. And then you just try things. You try them. And know that they’re not all gonna work. And that’s totally fine.

Don’t make it mean anything. You just try something else. And so this, my friends, is how you can stop sabotaging nighttime snacking in three easy steps. And if you’d like a jumpstart in the Weight Loss with the Holy Spirit program, and to learn exactly this whole process I have a free… Five day weight loss challenge where it will pinpoint exactly where to start your weight loss journey.

Remember, if weight loss has been hard for you, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. It’s just you’re focusing on the wrong things, and that’s not your fault because no one’s taught you what to focus on. So if this time next week you would like to know what to focus on, I have a free… Five day weight loss challenge where it will pinpoint exactly where to start your weight loss journey.

So your weight loss is lasting. You will bring in the truth of the Holy Spirit and he will reveal to you where he wants you to put your efforts so that you don’t waste your time and energy. Go to weightlosswiththeholyspirit. com and get started today. See you next time.