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Weight struggles can become part of a woman’s identity that she affirms daily, either verbally or in her thoughts. “I struggle with my weight”. Although it seems like this would lead to finding solutions for one’s weight struggle, the opposite is actually true as it keeps a woman her stuck and PREVENTS getting her healthy weight. By the end of this episode, you will learn how to get out of this self-defeating mindset, so you can get to YOUR healthy weight for good. Start your journey with the 5 day weight loss challenge for catholic women, visit www.WeightLossWithTheHolySpirit.com
Today, I want to show you how you can stop struggling with your weight right now. I know that sounds crazy, but it’s 100 percent possible for you. Now before I do that, you need to have a little background on how your brain works. Because we’re going to be hacking your brain so that you can have lasting weight loss.
You’ll stop struggling with your weight to actually have lasting weight loss. The way that your brain works is this. Everything that’s happening to you is a neutral circumstance. And the only reason why we have feelings about a circumstance is because we have a thought about it.
Your child gets an A on a paper. Your child gets an F on a paper. You get a raise that’s 3%. You get a raise that’s 5%. Your coworker got a raise that’s 3%, but you got a raise that’s 5%.
It’s all neutral circumstances, but based on our experience, the way that we’ve lived, how we’ve been raised, our perceptions, create our thoughts. And then we have feelings. And from those feelings about a neutral circumstance there’s things we do and there’re some things that we don’t do.
And depending on what we do and we don’t do, that’s the results that we get.
So I want you to consider that your sister calls you and says, Mom and dad are fighting. You really need to talk to her. I really need your help with this. And you might think, it’s up to me to fix it. And when you have that thought, it’s up to me to fix it, how do you feel?
Do you feel responsible? Maybe obligated? So you put on the responsible, obligated, it’s up to me to fix it glasses. You start looking for all the evidence that it’s up to me to fix it. Look, she called me. She’s depending on me. And when you have that responsible feeling, there’s things that you’ll do and not do.
Maybe you’ll call your mom. Maybe you’ll arrange a lunch for them to get together. Maybe you’ll sneakily try to like, find out what’s going on, get the background info. Things that you’re not doing, are letting the two of them figure it out. Checking in with the Lord, what does he want? You’re in I’m responsible to fix it mode, because those are the glasses you have on.
And so the result is that you put yourself in the situation. To fix it, and believe that it’s up to you to fix. Now, the same thing can happen, you can have the same conversation with your sister. Your sister calls you and she’s listening, this is what’s going on with mom, I need you to fix it. Will you please call her?
And you might have the thought, you know what, that’s up to them to fix. That’s between the two of them. So you could listen, empathetically, be supportive and kind and loving to your sister. And think, wow, that’s really hard that you’re going through that. But you have put on the, it’s not up to me to fix it.
That’s between the two of them glasses. And you feel unaffected. Or just not obligated. And when you don’t feel obligated, and you have the, it’s up to them to fix it, you step back. Remember, there’s things that you’ll do and not do, based on your feelings. You’ll probably not call mom. You’ll probably say things like, that’s up to you. I understand this is hard for you, but that’s not up to me to fix it. Maybe you’ll pray for them.
But you don’t feel obligated to fix it. And so the result that you get is that you still have a relationship with the two of them, but it’s not between the two of them.
Because it’s not up to you to get between the two of them because that’s what your thought is. No, neither one is right or wrong. I just wanted to show you that your thoughts get you results and let’s take this to this whole thought of I struggle with my weight, I struggle with my weight.
I want you to say that to yourself. I struggle with my weight. I struggle with my weight. How do you feel? You probably feel heavy, maybe even defeated. And when we put on those glasses, when I struggle with my weight glasses, we feel heavy and defeated. There’s things we’re going to do and not do. We’re probably not going to feel very motivated.
We’ll probably feel hopeless. We’ll feel stuck. We won’t really believe there’s an answer. What we’re not doing? We’re not problem solving. We’re not turning to the Lord and saying, Hey Lord, what do you want from me here?
We’re not looking for solutions. And so the result is we stay stuck in our struggle with weight. We continue to believe that we struggle. And I want to offer you, and I’m going to teach you how to hack your brain so you can stop struggling, but I want to offer you a couple other things about your weight.
Know that what you weigh is totally out of your control. I know you think that’s crazy, but our weight is in the Lord’s hands. You can’t just go change your weight. Like I could say, hey, go lose weight. You’d be like I don’t even know how to do that. I could say to you, go gain weight. Okay, let’s look at it that way.
And you’d be like, okay, I can do that. But can you gain weight? Or do you just know how to move less and eat more? That’s what you can control. You guys, the only thing you can control
is your actions and your thoughts. I know you think you can’t control your thoughts, you can’t control your first thought, and sometimes our first thought is pretty automatic, but you can control your second thought, so I wanna show you what you can control so you can stop struggling with your weight.
And so often we believe that when we talk about weight loss and struggling with our weight, that the solution is. To focus on diet and exercise, your brain wants to jump there right away Doesn’t it? and think about all the things that you’ve already been taught that help you change your weight. So yes, those do change your weight But I promise you that is not the place to start if you’ve struggled with your weight.
Ha or if you’ve said that to yourself for years, maybe even decades The place to start is not with diet and exercise. I promise you that the answer is so much more simple. The answer is so much more personalized. And that the Lord wants to reveal to you what it is. The first thing that you struggle with is accepting your weight.
Accepting where you are. Another thing I know you probably struggle with is being kind and nice to yourself, and not criticizing yourself. See, our brains believe that the more we criticize ourselves, the more action we’ll take.
But I think you see that’s not even true. It just doesn’t work that way. When we’re kind and loving to ourselves, we take better care of ourselves. And I also know that you probably struggle with even knowing what you need. And that’s totally fine. Know that no one has ever taught us how to check in with ourselves and even know what we need or are even feeling, much less to not even check in with ourselves, but even to then take the next step and actually meet that need.
So I know the three things that you’re struggling with right now are probably acceptance, being nice to yourself and knowing your own needs. Because the world does not teach us how to treat ourselves that way. We like to let that inner mean girl lead us. But I promise you, this is 100 percent the answer to being at a healthy weight for the rest of your life.
To help you stop struggling with your weight. Now I’m going to get really practical here, so stick with me. It can absolutely start today in the next 60 seconds. I’m going to show you how to change your thoughts so that you can get results. I want you to start practicing a new thought. And here’s what’s so fun, is that thoughts are like hats.
You can try it on, does it work for you? So instead of that whole thought of, Ugh, I struggle with my weight. I want you to consider a new thought. Maybe something like, I’m learning what the Lord wants to reveal to me about my weight. Because if you’re listening to this, you’re looking for a different way.
I know you are. You’re looking for a way that is not the world’s way. You’re looking for a way to connect your food and weight in that area of your life with the Lord. Now I know you’ve given the Lord your job, your parenting. Your sick parents, maybe, you’ve invited him into your marriage, and now I want you to invite him into your food and wait.
Do you think you can start believing? I’m open to learning what the Lord wants to reveal to me about my weight. I’m open to a new way. I’m just going to throw out some thoughts that might work for you. I’m learning that the Lord wants to tell me about my food and weight. I’m learning there’s a different way.
I want you to just start cultivating the feeling of curiosity. And when we can start feeling curious, so you can ask yourself what thought would create the feeling of curiosity. I’m open to learning what the Lord wants to reveal to me. I’m willing to seek what he wants to tell me. I’m open to hearing what he wants me to know.
It’s just all these fun things, because when we start to feel curious, guess what we do? Remember our feelings? Create things that we do and we don’t do. We start asking Him. We start saying, Lord, what do you want me to know? And again, I know that sounds obscure, I’m going to show you a real practical way to do it, so just hang with me.
Lord, what do you want me to know? And you guys, the Holy Spirit is so dang faithful that when we invite him in, he’s like, Oh, let me tell you all the things that I want you to know. And he does it in such a kind and tender and loving way. What we don’t do when we’re curious, we don’t worry about knowing the right answer.
We don’t second guess ourselves. We don’t spin out and weight loss methods. When we’re curious. We’re open. We don’t think it’s gotta be this way. We don’t think it’s gotta be food and exercise and we don’t go make hard plans. Now trust me, diet and exercise plans are really good. It’s just not the place to start.
And if you haven’t listened to podcast number two, which is the surprising ways that diet and exercise fail, I want you to go do that to just confirm with your brain even more that diet and exercise are not the place to start for lasting weight loss. They’re good, but they’re gonna fail if that’s where you start.
So if you have the thought, I’m open to asking the Lord what He wants to reveal about food. I’m open to asking the Lord what He wants to reveal to me about my weight. We get curious, and the result is, you learn what the Lord actually wants to reveal to you. And he will reveal it to you. He does his part.
He will tell you what you want to know by asking. Now listen, that’s an obscure thing, so I’m going to give you a really practical thing to do. I have a free five day amazing challenge for you. You will spend five days doing exactly this, asking the Lord what He wants to reveal to you about your food and weight struggles. Remember when I told you that the keys to lasting weight loss are knowing your needs and being able to meet them? It’ll also lead you through a couple exercises so that you can start to check in with yourself and get to know you in this season of your life.
And I say that because so often we think, Oh, I know myself. I know what I need. Really? Have you been checking in with yourself now, in this season of your life? See, the thing is that you’ve never been in this season before. You’ve never been the age you are, that have the schedule you have the stresses and the work demands and family demands and the thoughts that you have.
So it’s time to start checking in and getting to know you in this season of your life. And I promise you this is way more simple than you think. All you do is make check marks on a piece of paper and at the end of the day you ask yourself one question and you allow the Lord five minutes to reveal whatever he wants to reveal to you.
So you can start this today. And this, my friends, is how you lose weight. with the Holy Spirit. This is weight loss with the Holy Spirit. It’s inviting the Lord into your food and weight. You’ve invited him into every other area of your life and now he wants to lead you in this area. So you can stop thinking, I struggle with my weight.
Because right now, you’re practicing a new thought. And your brain’s always going to want to go back to that old thought of, I struggle with my weight. And you can just say, Thank you, brain. But I’m learning a new way. I’m open to learning what the Lord wants to reveal to me. I’m open to learning what the Lord wants to reveal to me.
And He’s going to show you what He wants you to know. If you’d like to be surrounded by a community of other Catholic women who are getting to a healthy weight, And staying there for the rest of their lives and learning how to live this way of life. I invite you to check out Weight Loss with the Holy Spirit.
And join our community. Alright everybody, have a blessed day.