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Hi, everybody. So today’s podcast is what to do instead of giving up. When you find that you have had a misstep you’ve overeaten. You got yourself really overstuffed and perhaps you saw yourself do something. That you haven’t done in a long time. When you’re having some feelings of guilt. And regret and remorse. And well, this is a process that I came about because the Lord allowed me to fall. Like last week. And so the process that I’m going to lay out, I want to tell you what you can do instead of giving up and how you can get a lot of clarity and actually make a lot of progress, leaning into whatever happened. So I’ll go through what that process is. And then if you want to stay on, you can hear the nitty-gritty details of actually what happened to me. So stay tuned. This is a little bit more of a serious podcast, and I say it’s serious because if you struggle. With feeling controlled by food. There’s so many heavy emotions. Attached to this. And I promise you, by the end of this podcast, you are going to feel so much freedom. You’re going to feel so light. You’re going to feel the Lord has come in and helped remove that burden from you.
Through the process that I’m going to lay out. And I hope that you can hear from my experience. That we’re just always human. We’re never perfect. And when we don’t run to the Lord. Or when we stop doing. The things that keep us in his will. We’re going to move farther and farther from him. And the result will be that we overeat. And so I want to just encourage you that what I lay out in the weight loss with the holy spirit program. And what I’ve taught in this podcast is something that will be a daily commitment to you so that you can unite your food and weight. Two. The Lord. And be guided by the holy spirit. This is a daily commitment. To herself and to him. Let’s just dive in here. Often when we have a situation where we overeat and you can kind of define that in any way that you want to, . I’m thinking of a situation where you see yourself do something that perhaps you haven’t done. In quite a long time you’ve been feeling of food freedom. Maybe you have been.
Practicing the things in this podcast. And you’ve just been feeling like, oh gosh, my food feels really clean. My re it feels really, really just sort of a non-issue I’m eating the foods that I like. I’m not feeling controlled. And then something happens. That’s kind of confusing. And so this process I’ll be laying out here is to help you get clarity. Not only to help you get clarity. But do you use it as a way to make even more progress? Then you had been making before, so I’ll leave him propel you forward more quickly. This process is going to be in the show notes. You can just follow along and the notes if you’re driving and you don’t have the ability to. Take notes. , I call this processing getting clarity when we overeat. The first thing that we’re going to do is to say a prayer. If you want to just use this podcast as a way to process. An incident where you overeat. That’s cool too. And just pause it. And I will lead you through. When I get done with this. I’ll be giving you my answers. If you want to stay on. So the first thing we do is pray. And the name of the father, the son, and the holy spirit. Come holy spirit. Bring me comfort in this time. Helping to feel so loved and held and cherished. Hold my heart Lord. I feel weak. I feel vulnerable. I feel discouraged. But I know these feelings do not come from you. Please send down your spirit of courage. That I might bear. My cross is like, you. Specifically the cross of struggling with my food weight. And binge-eating.
So then I may overcome it by your spirit of courage. Cultivating 42. As I do this reflection. Send down your spirit of understanding so that I may be enlightened to your eternal truth. And your spirit of knowledge. Is that I am. I know. What you want me to know and learn. From doing this reflection. Finally, I ask you to send down your spirit of counsel. So that this reflection is fruitful and you teach me what you want from me going forward. So that I choose the surest way of pleasing you and gaining heaven. Be with me now, Lord. Amen. And the name of the father, the son. And the holy spirit. Let’s take out a piece of paper. Do step one, And do what we call a mind dump and then weight loss with the holy spirit program. And the mind dump is just getting everything out of your brain. What happened? And when you ask your brain what happened, it’ll tell you. Well, It started with this. To start with. Any detail. That comes to your mind and try to start from the beginning. Step two. Reread what you wrote. And add any details in a different color. You don’t have to add details in a different color, but I think it’s fun. I think it adds a little bit of, Creativity. And levity to add color to our writing. Step three. Ask yourself and answer. What did you notice? What did you learn? You may need to reread this again. With step two, just keep asking yourself, what else? what else? What, what other details are there?
Step four. Ask yourself and answer. What else does God want me to know? Looking at what you wrote. What else is he revealing to you? Step five. Ask yourself and answer. Can I clearly see what led to this. This will be a yes or no question. Can I clearly see what led to this and the answer will be yes. If you’re like, oh yes. Ah, yeah, I see that. And the answer will be no. If it feels Hetty, You will know if it’s a no. Because you want clarity. So whether you answer yes or no, there’s an, a follow up question. So if you say to yourself, Oh, yeah, I can now see, this makes so much sense. Then describe what led to the situation. The answer is no. And you don’t feel clarity yet. Ask God to give you clarity. Ask for it. Word. What do you see? That led me to overeat. And then write down what he tells you. Step six. Ask yourself an answer. What do I know now that I couldn’t have learned any other way? And then amazing. I see, because what I find is that the Lord. We’ll modal molded like clay. But my friends. If necessary, he will use a hammer and chisel. And that’s what he did with me. He kept trying to teach me this lesson over and over and over. And when I wouldn’t learn it. He’s like, all right, well, let’s do this the hard way. And he let me fall and I say fall because he just knocked me off my pedestal. He knocked me off the Denise. Pride pedestal.
And said, let me God, get on the pedestal. I’m the one who’s driving your life to Knysna. Not you. Step seven. Ask yourself an answer. What, if anything, has God revealed that he would like you to change going forward? Lord. What would you like me to change? And maybe he’ll say nothing. Maybe he just wanted to bring some awareness to you. But likely he’s going to give you some instructions. Because there was a lesson in this for you. And he’s expecting to have a change in you. In some way. Whether it’s in thought attitude, belief. Or perhaps in practice. Now step eight. Is for each one of the things that the Lord revealed to you in step seven. I want you to create that self coaching model framework. By putting that item either in the, a line, which is in the action line or in the R line, which is the result line. And I want you to finish that model. Now, if you’re not clear on how to do that, and you can go back to. Becoming your own Catholic weight loss coach. podcast And I go through how to do that framework. Okay. By now, if you’ve done this work. You can sit with this. I also recommend that you might want to just print out the show notes. And take it into adoration. Oh my gosh. The Lord is answered.
The Lord will we feel so much to you? If you have an interest in staying on, I will reveal the answers that the Lord gave me. Through this exercise. Of course. I said the prayer that he just gave me in the moment. Step one. Mind dump what happened? So each week I like to take one day. To not record what I eat. And go out to eat. In the morning, I felt really good. And at the restaurant. I felt really good. I had a snack. It was great. Though I didn’t weigh the pudding that I had, which wasn’t a problem. But I was standing in eating. My snack was at four o’clock and I didn’t have a plan. At six o’clock. I went for a walk. But I was hungry beforehand. So I had a small bit of chicken again, standing. During my walk, I started to fantasize and daydream. About what food I would be having to eat for the rest of the day. I felt confused. I wasn’t sure what to eat. On my walk. I said the surrender novena, and I just decided I would have a burger. My brain said, yes. Berger and Manet’s have your favorites. It’s your day to expand your boundaries. I started to consider ways that I had eaten before ways of eating. That were higher and fat. Where we dip foods and melted butter. Eat pats of butter on hamburger.
And how much I liked that. My brain started thinking, this is your day. This is your data. Expand your back boundaries. I had that attitude. So I decided I would have a burger with Mayo. When I was eating dinner, I did a lot of other things that were not on my safe eating plan. I didn’t have a plan. First of all, I didn’t measure any of my food. I added butter to the. To the bun. And didn’t measure it. I was eating, standing. I was eating while I was preparing my meal. I took extra food to the table and was eating seconds. And I was eating out of packages. Looking back. I can see. That I have been craving higher fat. The day before. So that evening I kept adding more and more Manet’s at the table. I even got an extra hard-boiled egg and need it with Manet’s. And I ate while I was cleaning up. I noticed that while I was preparing my meal, I started to feel lightheaded. And I got scared. Since usually that leads to migraines. So it was eating, standing, and I ate a piece of my bread. I was scared I would get a migraine if I waited too long. Okay guys. I think what you need to know from that. And this is not on my, what I wrote I had been in an intentional weight loss. Season. And what I was doing is I had. Six days a week that I would record my food in a tracker because was experimenting with what would. Lead to weight loss. And then I was taking one day. And that one day was a day that I would go out to eat with my husband and I would expand my boundaries. And I would not track. But that said not tracking does not allow me to not have a safe eating plan. And I will get more into what a safe eating plan is.
You’ll see that come out a little bit more. , as you hear. This process unfold. And that was really the key of what led to me falling. Step to reread what you wrote and add in a different color. So, what I added was. I haven’t evaluated if I even like this, which was. Each week I would track for six days, one day I would expand my boundaries. And go out to eat. So I said, I haven’t even evaluated if I like this. Maybe I want to change to a new format. Maybe two meals out a week. And the rest will be measured. Maybe not recorded, but measured to know what I’m eating. So I’m not blind. So I’m not hiding. So I’m honest. I want to cultivate an all foods fit attitude. It’s the behaviors that reflect whether I’m not I’m in the Lord’s will. Versus my well. And it was interesting because I think I had been getting into. Uh, restrictive mindset. Okay. I also added. How good. I felt eating at the restaurant with my husband earlier in the day I ate slow and I savored it. It was just so perfect. And then I went on , to say in highlight every time that I said I stood an eight, that is just a chaos behavior. For me, it is no bueno. And then also I said, I didn’t have a plan, not great. I need to have a plan, even if it’s a loose plan. It’s really helpful for me to just create peace with my food.
I added was when I said I during the walk, I started fantasizing and daydreaming about what food I would have for that dinner. And I just said, hug. My body and brain was just trying to keep itself safe and protected. I just didn’t take the time to make a plan. So my brain was really just trying to help me. My brain was saying, I know what will help you. What will make you feel good? What will decrease the amount of decision making. Just have your favorites that you don’t allow yourself to have that you only get on this day, this once a week do that. Today’s your only chance. And I recognized that I had been having that mindset for the last couple of weeks. Where it’s I would wait to have my favorites only until one day. And I think that worked for a season. But it stopped working now. And now my brain was in a place of feeling restricted. And my brain was just trying to help me. To try to decrease my decision fatigue. Oh, my brain was so nice. Step three. What did you notice? Or what did you learn? I said my safe eating plan isn’t to restrict or to punish me. It’s protection. This is what helps me stay safe. God is teaching me how to navigate my humanness. And you guys, I really believe that that’s what safe eating plans do. As they put boundaries over our human temptations, our human will, our human tendencies.
It teaches me how to quiet the temptation, how to reorder my relationship with food. To reorder it and return it to how he created me. I continue my writing. These are instructions from him. I’m God. For me. I put a big smiley face there. They are a gift. There, how to stay in his will. How. How to access the holy Spirit’s guidance in his strength. And I go on to say, I don’t need a break from following his ways from his world. Just like one day a week. I don’t need a break. To go flirt with another man. Or to gossip. Or to yell at my kids or to get drunk or overspend. And I think that I had been slowly by slowly getting into mindset that I could set my safe eating plan down for a day. And that would feel fun or light or easy, or would help me in some way. But as I can see, the, my safety plan is there for protection. Just like the way that the Lord teaches us. How did protect our marriages. And protect my stress level. So I don’t yell at my kids. Or that I don’t gossip. And I said, none of those things would benefit me. Spiritually, my safe eating plan. As a more nuanced. Personalized instructions from God to me. It’s just like the 10 commandments. Aren’t just a bunch of rules for rules sake. It’s what God wants for all of us to have maximum happiness. To have maximum joy to have maximum freedom. My safe eating plan is a gift from the Lord to say, Denise, I know your humanness is prone to seek comfort and food. So to help you avoid it. Do this, which is the safe feeding plan. And I will be able to keep you safe. You guys are safe.
Eating plan is truly the answer. That I’ve been praying for, you know, how we’re like, Hey Lord helped me with my weight struggles. Hey Lord, help me with my food struggles. And he’s like, all right, I will. Here’s your set of instructions. And that’s what he gave me. That was the answer that I had been looking for. So my answer to what did I notice and what did I learn? Number one, that my safe eating plan gives me maximum happiness, joy, and freedom. What else did I learn? I learned that my brain was just trying to keep me safe. I’m just trying to keep me safe. And what I mean by that is that when my brain is trained to tell me something, when I’m having food thoughts off my plan, Or find myself daydreaming about food or obsessing about food or feeling distracted about food it’s assigned for me, it’s sort of a little red flag that says, Hey, There’s something to look at here. And so I feel like the Lord is saying Denise. I want you to just check in with your brain. Hey brain. What do you think is the problem here?
And I think that food thoughts for me. Are just a low level stress response. And anytime I have a stress response, If I’m feeling anxious, which is really when I’m having food thoughts, I’m usually feeling anxious is an opportunity and an invitation for me to look at what my brain is trying to tell me. And here’s the thing is that. Thinking about food is very distracting from what the Lord really wants for me. And having a plan gives me so much peace. That’s another thing that I noticed is that a plan. Really. It gives me so much peace and space in my day. So that was another thing that I learned. Step four. What else does God want me to know? God wants me to see that I’ve been on a downward path. And he decided to let me fall as a gift. And that’s where I say you guys, the Lord will mold us like clay. Or he’ll use a hammer and chisel when necessary. He let me fall to wake me up. He let me fall. To get me to come to him. He let me fall. Honestly, you guys to create this tool that I just outlined for you. He let me fall. So that going forward, I could teach someone else. About this.
He let me fall. To bring me clarity to bring me more freedom. A clear understanding and you guys, I tell you that when you do this reflection, you will have so much more progress and so much more commitment to what key wants and the ability to use his strength going forward. A clear understanding that Denise. Eating is one of the ways. That you take your will back. Eating is one of the ways. That distracts you. From doing what? I God wants for you. Denise eating is a way that clouds you. Eating off plan that is. The cloud you from hearing the Lord clearly. And you guys, my food had been getting so noisy. So noisy, it wasn’t calm anymore. And when I say noisy, that’s just thinking about food. And what I teach in the weight loss with the holy spirit is how to quiet that noise. And I can see now looking back how my food had gotten so noisy. So noisy. So I couldn’t even hear him to be guided. And it got noisy because I see. Uh, using the trackers as a tool is very helpful, but I can see where I was also using them as a mini G God. I had stopped being so committed to my safe eating plan. And more committed to simply just following these macros. And that just isn’t a place that will lead me to food. Freedom. And now I know.
And so I asked myself, what else does he want me to know? And you know what he said to me, He loves me. God wants all of me. Yes, he’s calling me to be refined. He’s calling me to be smaller. More docile to him to be fully attached to him, not attached to things of the world food. Frackers. Weight loss. Yes. This is a higher calling for me. He needs all of me. What else does he want me to know? That this is holy work. Keep doing this, Denise. So many of his daughters need to know that this work is holy. That this is the work they need. And that lists. Is what’s keeping them from the Lord and effecting their salvation. Oh, you guys, I even wrote ouch. Oh, I hate that answer. But it’s so true for me anyway. The noise of food can be so distracting that it’s keeping me from my salvation. He also wanted me to know that he’s here, he will help me. He will lead me. Step five. Can I clearly see what led to this. My answer was yes. If, yes. Describe what led to the situation. I said, yes, I haven’t been following my safety plan.
I said, yes, I’ve been fairly restrictive and not in tune or giving my brain a voice about what it’s that it’s wanting. To have more fat in my diet. I said yes. I haven’t been re-evaluating my diet. In this next season. So I lost the weight that I wanted to lose. During that intentional weight loss season. But I haven’t. Re-evaluated what next? What’s good for me to maintain. That what got me to lose weight. Isn’t necessary in this maintain season. And I also said that I noticed I didn’t plan and my brain was really scared because it didn’t have a plan. I said in the next season, I think for June. I want to just recommit to my safe eating plan. Of not standing and eating and just a full commitment to all of the details with my safe eating plan. Which I’ll get to in just a second. Step six. What do I know now that I couldn’t have learned any other way? Following my safe eating plan and behaviors are part of my next level of spirituality. Safe eating will allow me to get to my next level of spirituality of detachment. Of quieting my life so that I can hear the holy Spirit’s voice louder by removing what’s unnecessary. What isn’t of God.
I said I was acting on human strength. On pride that I’ve got this, I know this I’ve been doing this for so long. God wants me to always surrender everything he’s calling me to a greater surrender. And the other lesson that I could have only learned by this. That I know now. As I can only be his surrendered instrument and help women. If I am surrendered myself. Ugh. Put that feels so good. Step seven. What, if anything has God revealed that he would like me to change going forward? And he said he would once a daily commitment to my safe eating plan. And my safe eating plan. Is that I eat planned food. Prepared for me, seated slowly. That’s been weighed and measured. You guys don’t have to do that, but I do that because it. Helps me. B. Aware and honest with my food. So for example, If I just put. Let’s just say peanut butter on a sandwich. Am I okay with a quarter cup of peanut butter? Like, is that what I’ve would have chosen to eat or would I prefer and feel more comfortable? With two tablespoons. So I measure my food so that I can say, yes, this is exactly what I want. It gives me so much freedom and it really empowers me.
For me, it’s not restrictive. Is it necessary for everyone, ? Absolutely not. And do I weigh and measure at people’s homes? No. Do I weigh and measure when I go to restaurants. No. But I do when I can, and it just works for me. It gives me a peace. That works for me. So I want to say my safe eating plan. One more time. To eat and God’s will I eat planned food prepared for me? I don’t eat other people’s food. Seated. I don’t eat. Standing. Slowly. That’s been weighed and measured unless I have decided ahead of time to not measure, which that would be part of the plan. Okay. So what the Lord is asking for me as a daily commitment to my safe eating plan. I commitment to planning. And ? To detect when food thoughts come up to give them a voice. To calm myself. And just to reflect, what are you trying to tell me? To really check in. And befriend myself. And then step eight for each one of the things lifted and step seven, create a self coaching model, framework, putting this in the line. And so the thoughts that I have come up with. That helped me and that I am now reading are two things that will lead to those results I’m willing to see what’s possible when I am dedicated to eating in God’s will. Which is my safety game plan. And the other one is I’m learning to check in with my brain when I’m having distracting food thoughts. You guys, I want to. Tell you. This didn’t take. A good hour, hour and a half. For me to sit with the Lord.
But it has been so darn fruitful. It has helped me so much. Since this has happened. I shared it with one client who had done the work. And it brings so much peace and clarity. And this isn’t for everyone, but this is for people who are willing to do the work. It does take time. But I promise you it is worth it. And the Lord. We’ll give you so much of his strength. And clarity. And if you’ve been struggling. For decades or years, you know, that the freedom that can come from this is so worth an hour, maybe even two of your time. So I hope this has been helpful. It’s in the show notes, you will have all of the details. So that you can do this on your own. And I just want you to continue to learn more and more and more so you don’t have to struggle. And one of the ways that I’m doing that is I’m offering a free workshop called, oh, we lost over 40. What’s really holding you up. You guys know that you’ve tried all the diets and I promise you that it’s not diets and it’s not willpower. It’s not exercising more. That’s holding up your weight loss struggle. So I want you to go with weight loss with the holy spirit.com. Get signed up for that free workshop, weight loss over 40. What’s really holding you back.
All right, everybody have a blessed day.